I have a friend who wants so desperately to leave her parent’s house. She wants her own space. The ability to go where she wants when she wants. To stay up late, party, drink, and smoke. She always says that all she wants is her independence.


At 22, I never thought I would consider giving up my independence. The proverbial wet dream of every angsty teenager. Yet, I’ve started to consider what I would give up for it. After 7 years of this bittersweet freedom called “independence”, I realized I might just give it up to run back to my parent’s house. No, I haven’t lost my mind. Seriously. And yes, I have friends. Loads. I even have family. So I’m not “alone”. Yet I guess I’m just the sum of a life lived too independently, too long, maybe even too early.

At a tender age, similar to many other Nigerians, I was sent to boarding school. There, I learned to wake up early, to clean up after myself, wash my own clothes, and handle my own money. Most importantly, I learned to make decisions for myself. For eight months, I would live with a make shift family of my “paddies”. A sisterhood made of my fellow boarding school girls, our kinship sculpted by the tough but shared experiences of Nigerian boarding school life. And then at the end of each term, I would go home. Sometimes I would enjoy being in my father’s house. It was never really *my* house. It was the house my father built. It was…nice. It was in a nice estate. Great architecture. But at 15, it felt like a mausoleum. Impersonal. But nice. I had my own space. A large room with a big bed. The best part was that I had my parents to dote on and be doted on for the brief periods between boarding school. So I enjoyed it. A brief, but welcome interlude from my hellish but fun boarding school life.

Then I graduated and left for university. That 8 months became 11 months and 2 weeks away from home. Out of the _ weeks in a year, I would get barely 10 days with my family. Initially I loved it. For 11 months I would be free to do whatever I wanted. Free to experience life, make mistakes without being berated, find myself. It was amazing. No one to tell me what to do or how to act. I could wear that dress with my bar strap showing. I could go to that shady club. My decisions were all completely up to me with very little supervision.

And then I got to law school. Less friends. Definitely no sisterhood. And while I missed my friends from high school and university, overall I realized I missed my family the most. At night, after a long day of class, I would find myself daydreaming of home. I now wanted to be in that cold mausoleum. I craved it. I dreamed of messing it up with my clothes and belongings. I wanted to warm it up with my cooking. I wanted to have breakfast, lunch, and dinner with my parents and family. I wanted long drives from the mainland to Lagos island. Buying suya at night with my dad. Haggling in the market with my mom. I missed laughing with them, fighting with them, being so fed up of them that I couldn’t wait to leave their house.

Instead, I got independence. I independently moved into a new place for law school. One bedroom. I independently went grocery shopping and cooked for myself. Bon Apetit. I filed my taxes, went clubbing, travelled on weekends, worked, studied. All by myself, all the time. Hashtag adulting.

But then my nights were filled with long distance calls and lengthy video conferences to my friends, my siblings, and my parents. Living the life of a quasi-international student with no parents in the country, , made me realize how terribly alone I was in the world. Listening to my Canadian colleagues and classmate describing their weekends and holidays spent with their family, I started getting jealous. When was the last day I celebrated a mother’s day with my mother? It’s crazy how the mind changes as we get older. Maybe because it’s the grass on the other side, it all of a sudden seems so much greener. After years of wanting to run away from my parent’s house and finally start living, I feel like I lived enough. And now I just want the comfort of my parents and the stability of a home. Maybe as I get older I’m becoming more nostalgic. Maybe I’m just a homebody. All I’m saying is what’s the point of independence if you’re always home alone?

Top 10 Tips for New Law Students

Searching through Youtube the other day and I stumbled upon this video and this guy’s channel. The relevant facts:

1. He’s Canadian!! Three yips for Canada! An absolute rarity in this US-centric online and even legal world. Why can’t we ever escape you guys???

2. He’s from McGill Law. **Insert Maclean’s Law School & University Rankings, and a Quebecois tinged superiority-complex rival to only that of U of T**

I kid, I kid. What this means is there’s a good chance he’ll talk about civil law for those interested.

Here he has some really good advice for first year law students and about law school in general. I will definitely watching and subscribing.

I know, I know. I’ve gone ghost on you guys! Law school has been extremely busy. As the guy in the video says, it has literally been a full time job. 
Rest assured, I will be making up for my absence. Expect three new posts next week! 

P.S. If anyone has any personal questions, feel free to leave a comment or send me an email.

THE GLOBE AND MAIL: U of T students’ artificially intelligent robot signs with Dentons law firm

Called Ross, the app uses Watson, which won the TV quiz show Jeopardy!in 2011, to scour millions of pages of case law and other legal documents in seconds and answer legal questions. Its founders liken it to a smarter version of iPhone’s Siri, but for lawyers, and say it could one day replace some of the grunt research work now done by low-level associates at the world’s top law firms. It is one of several attempts to apply what is called “cognitive computing” to the historically technology-averse legal profession.

Read more here

So basically technology is taking over my summer internships and associate positions.WHAT ABOUT GRAD SCHOOL

Three Things Law Schools Don’t Warn You To Think About

To summarize Jaimekid2’s points:

1. Debt! Debt! Debt! 

I completely agree with him. If you have to take loans you also have to think of a payment plan. Thus, law school might not be the solution if your average law school salary(lets say a pessimistic 50k) won’t be able to cover your monthly loan repayments. It’s also important to think about either holding off law school to work and save up or choosing law schools based on low tuition and scholarships.

Ey, Law school ain’t free.

2. Law School is Really Really Hard! (Maybe you should take a prep course/study before hand)

This point reminds me a lot of what everyone said about Undergrad.

“Oh your first year is gonna be bad. But everyone’s first year is bad.”

What if I didn’t want my first year to be bad and actually aced it? Everyone has been telling me that law school is hard yet I should enjoy my summer and not do any reading, research, or studying until my first day? These two points, together, don’t quite making sense to me.

3. Post-Law School Unemployment 

This video was dated August 2012. And the guy went to an American Law School so I’m guessing he’s part of the group strongly effected by the 2008 economic crisis in America.

Regardless, his points are still absolutely valid. In Canada, most law schools help facilitate environments to help their students get articling positions after their third year, but even this isn’t guaranteed. Then there’s the huge law student nightmare, of getting an articling position and not getting called back after the bar exam… back to square one without a job.

Great Sites Any Aspiring Lawyer Should Look at First

My mother always said sharing is caring. Considering law school? About to go to law school? Or in law school already? These are a few of my go to sites that I find extremely valuable.

The Girl’s Guide to Law School

Ah-mazing site. Started by a Columbia Law alumni, Alison Monahan, this blog has all the preliminary questions any future JD student would ask– with answers! While it is American centred, there are some real jewels contained inside such as the

–> Law School Tool Box

–> The Cost of Applying to Law School

–> Law School Myths Debunked


I add this site as a reference to every single post I have on here. I don’t know what extremely thoughtful group of students started this site but there’s definitely a special spot in lawyer heaven reserved just for them. This forum has topics and discussions about EVERYTHING from the LSAT, to Law Schools, to Getting Jobs, to Law Professors Q&As!

Have a question? Somebody on there has most likely asked it already.


This is another great read. Unfortunately, again, very USA-centric. Darn! What about the rest of the world? But the articles there are still very well researched and great reads about various aspects of law school and the law profession.

This post will be updated regularly with new additions so check back!

Psst! Do you have any sites that you think are super valuable? Please feel free to like, follow, and comment below.